God’s story is bigger than our struggle

God’s story is bigger than our struggle

Thursday, 6 September 2018  | Karissa - Assistant Principal Secondary

As you may be aware, or may remember, the journey to having a family for my husband and I has never been smooth sailing, or quite gone to plan...

In short:

8 years of IVF, and multiple miscarriages led us to the decision to adopt a child.

This decision quickly opened up possibilities and in June 2015, we were able to foster our daughter in preparation for her Permanent Care Adoption. All our prayers had been answered… or so we thought.

Five weeks later we were advised that a mistake had been made, and that we had to give our daughter back. Knowing that our God was bigger than the bureaucratic systems of DHHS, we began an 18 month battle to have our daughter returned to our care.

In December 2016, we were finally successful in becoming a family when we were granted Permanent Care of our daughter. A much-celebrated answer to prayer!

However, due process is such that she would remain under the guardianship care of DHHS, until the final court proceedings 12 months later (December 2017), when we would receive the final seal of approval; a full Permanent Care Order.

Last Friday (only 8 months later than was expected) we finally found ourselves in court for this Permanent Care Order hearing…So as you can imagine, Father’s Day 2018 was all set to be an exciting milestone in our family’s life... our first ‘official’ (signed/sealed/delivered) Father’s Day... and the result... ‘Matter adjourned for two months’. (The birth mother did not attend and so the matter is postponed to give her another opportunity to be present).

And so the journey continues…

So how do we respond when things don’t go to plan?

We cry out in frustration, that’s for sure! ‘Surely, one part of this 11 year journey to have a family could go smoothly?!’ or ‘When will something go our way?’

But the truth is, that whilst the journey has been a tough one, and it has not gone ‘to plan’ as we imagined, it also has had God’s fingerprints all over it; we can recognise the orchestration of our powerful God. God’s story is bigger than our struggle.

Whilst continuing on this personal journey of ups and downs, I am drawn to the story of Joseph in the bible...

Favourite son of his father; yet betrayed and beaten by his brothers.

Rises to a position of trust in Potiphar’s house; yet is falsely accused of attempted rape by Potiphar’s wife because Joseph wouldn’t sleep with her.

Thrown into prison, where he waits out many years waiting for the Lord to deliver him.

Joseph must have felt alone, betrayed, and worried for what his future would look like; he is only human after all... but then how does Joseph emerge with an even stronger faith? How did he not lose all hope?... Because he knew that God was for him and with him, even in the moments of deepest trouble and despair.

It is this message of God’s faithfulness despite frustrations that speaks clearly of God’s goodness to His people. So whilst Joseph’s prayers for deliverance went unanswered for many years, he was also blessed and shown favour as God worked things for His purposes; God’s story was bigger than Joseph’s struggle.

My favourite verse from a young age, one that I have ‘worn tied around my neck’ is James 1:2-3. ‘2 Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. 3For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow.’

So whilst my husband and I continue to be challenged by the road blocks that come our way, we also consider the strength, perseverance and patience that is developing within us through these times. In hindsight, when I look back on the years of IVF, what seemed as the most challenging experience we would ever face as a couple, I know that without this experience we would not have developed the strength and resilience required to endure our ‘fight’ for our daughter. God’s story is bigger than our struggle.

But this perspective, this peace and this faith comes only from God. I have learnt to trust that through each hardship that I face, God is preparing me for something greater; I am being equipped for and taking part in God’s magnificent story... and what a privilege that is!

So where is God when things are tough, uncertain and too difficult to bear? He is WITH us. And He is always FOR us. And one day we will all be able to look back and see how He has used our pain, loss and suffering to accomplish far more than we could ever ask or imagine. God’s story is bigger than YOUR struggle.

2 Corinthians 1:3-4

3 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. 5 For just as we share abundantly in the sufferings of Christ, so also our comfort abounds through Christ.


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